MIH053:How to Dump a Negative Mindset

What happens when preparation meets opportunity? You step into your life purpose. Some people call it luck, I call it purpose. But there are some things you have to do to prepare yourself for purpose.


One very important thing to keep in mind is that a negative mindset will hold us back from success every.single.time.

How to dump a negative business mindset

As moms and women in business we have to be wiling to roll up our sleeves and prepare ourselves for the success ahead.

Getting rid of a negative mindset requires work.

You have to work to prepare yourself.

Nothing you receive in this world simply just happens. Remember Newton’s law? “For every reaction there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Whatever you do impacts something else in your life.

I have been in business off and on for about 14 years so far. During this decade-long season of mothering and balancing business, I’ve come to realize my limitations and what I can and can’t do at different seasons of my life.

I’ve learned how far I can stretch the boundaries in order to pursue business and how much of my energy has to kept for home life and raising kids. 

Meanwhile, I’ve learned the value of work. One of those values is that I can’t expect a return on no investment.

In other words, no time in, nothing out. No matter how slow-going things seem to be, if I just chop at it a bit at a time, a week here, a month there and a year goes by, I have accomplished something rather than nothing.

And that is an accomplishment, no matter how small. This is how I encourage myself daily.

Consistent work is crucial. The only way we can stay motivated is to encourage ourselves.

This leads me to the point that whatever someone else does to you or around you impacts you. That is why it’s so important to keep a few things in mind as women in business.

Guard your environment.

It goes without saying that negative people and circumstances can adversely affect your success.

Are you finding yourself constantly dealing with a Debbie Downer who consistently gives you the negative scoop regarding your decisions?

Are you around people who are at odds with you, who don’t understand your vision, and who don’t support you?

It’s important for women to guard our environment against a negative mindset.

Hang around thought leaders, positive people who have been successful and are currently successful. I personally love listening to other business podcasts (like Amy Porterfield’s Online Marketing Made Easy or Leslie Samuel’s Become a Blogger).

Seek out mentors and those who can help you along the journey. There are those who will pull you down and those who will build you up.

Spend time with those who will be the best influence on you.

This leads to my next point…

Take control of toxic thinking.

Like many women, over the years I’ve battled with bouts of low self-esteem. I’ve heard many times that those of us who put ourselves out there in the public eye can be some of the shyest people.

I don’t think I’m all that shy but I definitely have my more introverted moments. There are also moments when toxic thoughts begin to dominate my way of life as I succumb to ideas that don’t uplift me.

It might be very easy to slip into this mode of negative self talk and doubt and due to your upbringing or your cultural environment. For example, places where being demure, polite and humble were esteemed above mannerisms that can be mistaken for arrogance.

Sadly, I’ve seen many women have their self-esteem completely shot down or their self-worth plummet as a result of this type of limited thinking and debilitating mindset.

It’s not so much the geographic area you were raised in or currently live in, but the mindset of the people you hang around with that is the bigger influence.

We must, as women in business, completely take control of toxic thinking, getting rid of it every time it creeps its ugly head in our lives. This is the only way we’re going to see the value in ourselves that truly exists.

When you feel like you can’t be successful, like you can’t make it, you can’t do it, you don’t have what it takes, shoot down the toxic thinking right away as you begin to recognize it.

Well, my friends, I hope this has been helpful to you and encourages you to dump any negative mindset regarding business. You can do whatever you roll up your sleeves and set out to do. Your life is full of purpose and meaning. You can do this!

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MIH 052:The Best Way to Gain Client Trust From Your Tribe!

How important is it to gain client trust?

Listen to the podcast here…

SUPER important.

As bloggers and online business owners we have to show our trustworthiness very uniquely. It’s not always easy to show “Trust me” online, but there are ways we can do it.

Research shows we only have a few minutes to gain the trust of our customers and clients. Once they land on our website it’s up to us to help them believe in our products and services.

It’s easier said than done, so I thought I’d offer a few ways we can start implementing these strategies for our business right away.

Gain Client Trust From Your Tribe!

Be super honest

This is my first-and-foremost go-to strategy of all time. Seriously. If all else fails, honesty will not. You may have set yourself up as an expert in your industry, but folks can smell dishonesty from a mile away, which is why it is so important to remain true to yourself.

I know, I know- it’s difficult to see this play out in the business marketing world where it seems everyone’s credentials are over-the-top and egos are over-inflated, but there really are a segment of online marketers who believe in integrity and honesty.

Make sure this is part of your business model and you’ll see great results.

Your client trust factor will go through the roof because you aren’t afraid to show your failures, your hangups, your hiccups, your uncertainties. Be approachable and relatable all the while offering great value. Which leads me to my next point…

Bring loads of value

Why do your clients love you? If the shoe were on the other foot and you were the client, why would you be interested in your own services? Do you see how you are bringing value to your clients?

You can bring value in many different ways:

  • free information
  • helpful emails
  • follow-up emails
  • phone calls
  • coaching sessions
  • webinars
  • YouTube channel
  • podcasts
  • your blog

Bringing value to your client will make a tremendous difference in your trust factor. They trust you because they love what you offer to them, and they trust your expertise. So don’t be afraid to bring it on!

Be stable

Clients also love to know that you are stable. You’ll be there even if they don’t hear from you in a few weeks. You are around.

You haven’t closed shop. You will contact them again and offer them more value.

Stability means everything to your business and momentum will keep things alive and well for you.

When your clients know they can count on you to follow through on your offers or that you’ll do exactly what you said you would, they trust you even more.

What’s great is you are likely to receive referrals as a result! What a great way to expand your business- by word of mouth. Stability will take you a long way.

Now, I’ll admit (in an effort to be more relatable and transparent) I haven’t always been as stable with this blog as I would have liked.

Why? Because I’m a busy mama!

I got busy and I just haven’t truly worked my blog like a business this past year. Sure, I was working on business activities and making money, but I could have done so much more with my blog…

So… I’m working to change that this year, and I am excited for what’s ahead!

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Try these three tips into your business and let me know your results. I’d love to hear from you.

MIH 051:How to treat your business like a garden

Okay, I’m not much of a gardener but I know a few things. I’ve learned that owning and operating a business is very much like gardening. Why?  Because there are moments I put in a lot of work only to have to step back and allow it to grow. Other times I have to be more hands-on, give my garden a few sprinkles of water and be more attentive to its needs.

How to treat your business like a garden

In order to grow a business that thrives I like to think of nourishing a business the way I might a garden.

And that’s what this podcast  episode is all about. I’m sharing some ways we can do just that! Here is the basic outline of what I discussed. It’s better if you listen in at the play button above, so I won’t get into much detail here:

  1. Start with a seed.
  2. Plant the seed in good soil.
  3. Water it.
  4. Give it sunshine
  5. Watch it grow!

Very basic, right? I do think that when we follow the pattern that nature shows us how to do, the simple act of taking care of a garden, we can have even a much better and more holistic business. Because then it’s not about pushing for quick, overnight growth (though that can happen too and it’s always great when it does!) but putting in the time to cultivate it and watching it naturally produce for you, for years to come.

Listen in to hear my thoughts this week. I’d love to hear yours, too…just comment below and I’ll be sure to respond.

MIH 043:Why you should quit undercharging in your business

Over the years, I’ve learned why it’s so important to quit undercharging in my business.  Many of you who’ve followed me over the years have seen my prices fluctuate.  I’ll be honest with you, the prices change right along with my self-view.  I’ve found that my confidence level is directly correlated to my pricing strategy.I’ve learned that when I quit undercharging, and I charge premium prices, I get the results I’m looking for in business.  I want to help mompreneurs understand how important it is to change your mindset and allow yourself the option of charging more. Here are three steps to help you…

undercharging in your business

Honor your offerings and stop undercharging.

Others will treat you the way you treat yourself. Be sure to value yourself- your services and products. Believe that what you offer is valuable and needed.  If you don’t believe in what you offer, neither will your clients. What this means is that if your prices are too low, now’s the time to stop undercharging.  Whatever your pricing model was six months ago, consider raising those prices. Recently my husband challenged me to seriously consider my bottom line when I had planned to help a few folks with tech consulting services for either free or extremely discounted.  I don’t do pro bono often, but on occasion I will pitch in and help someone out who just needs the service and can’t afford it.  This habit, however, has trained me in some way to let down my guard and be more willing to give a “yes” to discounted services- even when the client could actually afford to pay full price.  I think what my husband wanted to protect me from is the habit of helping and giving and pouring out so much that I lose focus on why I started my business in the first place: to make money. It’s important to have boundaries in business, and we start forming boundaries by respecting our offerings and insisting that clients honor them as well.

Discounts don’t necessarily mean business.

If there’s anything I’ve learned is that you don’t always get the best business just because you’re offering a sale.   For example, when I run extremely steep discounts on my tech services, I often end up attracting clients that are either unclear on their goals or don’t respect the results of their coaching with me.  What this results in is an end product that isn’t worth my time.  In cases like this, sometimes the customer will completely discount the project altogether, backing out off before a project is complete (in which case you would need clear stipulations in place about what happens in situations like these). It’s worth evaluating whether or not you want to risk a steep discount if you’re unsure whether your time and energy will be compensated properly.  Remember, this all goes back to honoring your offerings. Also, this also just goes to prove that it’s equally important to know your boundaries and to keep it in writing.

Attract premium clients

If you want to sustain a profitable service-based business that you actually enjoy working every day, then attracting premium clients should be at the top of your to-do list.  You’ll want to make sure that your business attracts those who are able to afford your fees and are willing to have a conversation about your services without freaking out over your pricing model. Premium clients will not only pay what you charge, but they’re your best clients because they respect your work, are committed to taking action and seeing results on their actions, they usually pay on time, and will be happy to refer you to others. We can safely conclude that undercharging gets you nowhere in business, and attracting premium clients will give you the business success you’re going after.  So, I encourage you to start charging what you believe you’re worth!

Is working for free (or pro bono) worth it?

What about working for free?

In my ten years of working with clients on different web projects, I’ve noticed a trend. The more I charge, the more my time and services are respected.  The less I charge, the worst treatment I receive. That’s not to say that I haven’t done pro bono work for the sake of helping others out without a “thank you”.  Most people are typically nice enough to give you the courtesy of a “thanks”.  What I’m referring to is the overall treatment you might find yourself receiving as a result of constantly undercharging.

Here are some tips you’ll want to remember in working as an online business.

Giving back is great, but be careful not to burn out on pro bono work.

I love to give back.  But it’s cost me a lot of time, effort, and money to get where I’m going today.  I’m talking years of research, learning css or html in between my kids’ nap times, taking online design classes, paying successful online marketers to teach me what they know so that I can succeed as well.  I didn’t always have the money and sometimes I borrowed money to take a class, and paid back with interest.  I worked part time jobs, sweat through graduate school while raising an active toddler and learning to work an online business.  People who want to get somewhere tend to go after it and make the sacrifices necessary to achieve their goals.

People who learn from others who have forged the way might call you a mentor for being that leader.  People who want what you have but don’t want to put in the time and effort to learn from you or get where you are- well, they’re called freeloaders.  I’ve experienced both.

In my career as a work at home mom, I have given back whenever I see a need that should be met but the client doesn’t have the funds although they have the vision.  Sometimes they come to me for help, or I approach them and offer the help.  Whatever the case, I love being of help and I don’t mind not charging in those particular circumstances- which are few and far between. But I’ve noticed a trend resulting from my “free” services, which I would normally charge in the upper hundreds for.  When I do these things for free, there are only a few responses I tend to receive:

a.) “Thank you so much, I really appreciate it.”  And with that, the client happily uses the product or service I’ve provided for months and years to come.

b.)  “Thank you, it’s perfect.”  And with that, the client uses the product or service for a few weeks or months, then changes their mind and decides to use something else.

c.) “Um…I don’t like it at all. Can you change it?” And with that, the client proceeds to request a series of edits that you are now left having to decide on how much to charge for the extra labor it will cost you (after you’ve agreed to do pro bono work).

There are several lessons to learn from this.    One is: always have agreements in writing and stipulations in place about how you will handle any work you do- both paid and free.  It’s absolutely okay to help others out on the occasion when you know giving back is something you should do for someone.  But keep the communication lines open and clear. And the other: be very selective about who you give back to.

The first case is optimal. Provided you’ve listened to your client and done exactly what she wants, you’re going to have a happy camper. She could help you by spreading the word of your business or providing a testimonial for your website or Linkedin.  She could send customers to you in the future.

In the second case, you’re left confused- and hurt.  You spent the time, energy, tears, and sweat to provide her a valuable service or product, and she said she was happy with it- even thanked you publicly a number of times, validating how pleased she was with your service. But at the end of a few weeks or months she changes her mind about it.  If it’s a product, she might no longer use it-shoving it to the back of her drawer.  But let’s just say it’s a service.  Maybe you designed an ebook cover that she seemed absolutely ecstatic about.  Then three months down the road, your client ditches the cover and redesigns it herself (without saying a word to you, of course.)  A bit confusing, eh?  Of course, she can do whatever she wants- it’s her ebook.  And if she had paid you for the cover, you wouldn’t feel so stung…but because you gifted her, maybe you expected a longer shelf-life.  So it can leave you feeling shattered or even wondering if your help was truly appreciated.

Again- it’s business, and it’s all relative.  We always say to never take things personally- it’s business.  But when there was no business transacted, it becomes personal.  So be careful.

In the third case, you promise you’ll never do anything for free ever again.  This is the worst case scenario- with a “client” who acts as if she’s actually paying you.  In these cases, be firm but gently remind them that you will do the “extras” for a fee.  Beware of these situations also, by careful screening.  You should be able to pick out the ones who may cause you some trouble down the road right from the beginning. In those situations, charging your full fee from the beginning will help you to avoid this altogether.

Is pro bono work worth it?

It can be.  If you play your cards right-find people who really need your help who are also willing to help you in return by promoting your business, and find those who are willing to pay you even just a little- then, yes, it is worth it.  If the client totally cannot pay you monetarily, they may be able to “pay” you by promoting your business and sending others your way.

Not all “free” work ends up in a bad situation. Just knowing that what you’re doing for them is giving them a leg up should be reward enough. It’s when you get taken advantage of that sucks. And always, if anyone is ever using your skills or products without properly crediting you- then know that you’ve been had.  Learn from the situation and don’t repeat it.

Have you experienced this before? How about you- do you offer pro bono work?  If so, what are the guidelines and policies you have in place to protect yourself and your business?


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