Mom guilt is real, and if you are a mom blogger you totally get it. I talk about this topic so often with mompreneurs because it’s completely relevant and something that I know a LOT of us are dealing with constantly.
How do we find work-life balance? How do we spend time with our families and get it all done?
I try to cover just a portion of this massive subject in my Facebook live video- and I hope you find it helpful.
Make family your priority.
I think our greatest priority is to spend time with family, and we moms know this. We understand already that being grounded in faith and spirituality is important, and we so desperately want to. make family priority. But how do we do this and build our blogs? Blogging full time is truly a full time job!
In my life, I try to make family and spending quality time with my kids number 1. This is my high priority although I’m not always great at it.
In a perfect world my life would go like this: after taking care of my spiritual wellness, my physical health, loving my husband and my kids, business comes next in the line of priorities.
But sometimes (just sometimes), blogging sucks up so much of my time that I forget all sense of time. I mean, I literally enjoy blogging this much!
I’ve found that it’s important as a homeschool mom to use block scheduling so that after I homeschool my girls I spend time working, then time is spent preparing meals and doing housework and chores. I also have to unwind and just spend time enjoying my family- playing games and enjoying life together over family dinner.
It’s so important to make sure you have your own system of priorities that defines who you are so that you can balance your life better. I know it’s not an easy feat (I’m right there with you in the throes of family life), but it is possible.
Don’t feel guilty for being busy.
Entrepreneurship, as I’ve learned, is full of twists and turns. It’s not a straight shot to your next destination so it can be a rather tricky journey. There will be seasons when you’ll be extra busy with client work and you’ll need to stay later for meetings or leave your kids with a sitter a bit more often.
As your work load increases and your business expands you may find the need to call in extra support for your children, but that’s okay. It’s all part of your journey. So long as the new obligations you have don’t impede on your joyful journey or make you feel out of balance or completely out of sync with your family, it’s just a hiccup and you’ll get through it fine. In order to build a business you may just have to make some sacrifices. Prep your family for what to expect during the busy seasons.
Of course, if you feel that you are getting totally out of balance, then you’ll need to re-think your schedule and responsibilities and perhaps take some things off your plate. I’m always re-evaluating my life to see what needs to be eliminated if I feel like I’m out of balance.
Spend time with your family as much as possible.
When you’re together with your kids, really make it count. Let them know you’re available for them to talk and connect, or do activities they enjoy most.
If you spend quality time with your kids daily, likely a good 98% of your guilt will dissipate because of your connection with them. Whether it looks like 30 minutes or 2 hours, any amount of time with them is better than none at all.
I snag whatever moments I can, after school, before meals, just whenever – to do fun things with my kids that don’t take much time. We like to play card games or just simple word games. I read them stories, pray with them, and tuck them in at night even though they’re getting too old! I try to milk as much time out of being their mom in and around the clock although I’m working tons to build my business.
Give extra affection.
Another idea is to have reward systems in place so that the kids have something to look forward ton (for example, a mall outing with a teen daughter or a trip to Chuck E Cheese with younger kids). You can take them for ice cream or go for a special treat that they would really like.
This extra affection gives your kids the confidence that although you’re working hard all week and need some space and time to work uninterrupted, you understand their sacrifice of giving up some time with you. You’re letting them know they are important because you’re willing to reward them with some extra special fun at the end of the week as a result.
I truly believe that you can have your work life and home life combined and live without the burden of guilt.
Welcome to the Mompreneurs in Heels Podcast. On today’s podcast episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing LaRita Wilcher who was a former collegiate coach for 15 years. This is a series of reflections on her lifestyle led her to where she is today.
She now owns a software and recruiting service called Recruit Scheduling Solutions, and does all this while balancing a family life, and fulfilling her purpose in business & family.
What brought LaRita into the world of entrepreneurship/mompreneurship:
She is married and a parent, and has been coaching for 15 years on the collegiate level. After 10 years, she began to question whether or not she wanted to continue what felt to her like a rat race. She began to miss her family and questioned if she was really fulfilling her purpose in life.
Breaking point and transition period:
Her breaking point was when on her son’s 5th birthday, he asked for a suitcase for Christmas so that he could travel with his mother. At this point, LaRita realized she would need to find another way to live her life so that she could have a balance between life and work.
LaRita’s first steps into transitioning happened over a period of a year as she continued to feel the frustration of traveling frequently. She began to have thoughts about leaving coaching in order to pursue a business idea. With her husband’s encouragement, she finally acted upon her instincts and stepped out in faith.
What LaRita does:
LaRita assists coaches in being more efficient and organized with the way they recruit. She helps coaches organize their list of top prospects through software she has created.
All about teamwork:
In order to be successful, we need to work in a team. LaRita has elected people who have similar goals, qualities, and passions as she does. She is blessed to have been able to team up with a lifelong friend from high school (a pilot working for United) who contributes to her business. There are others on her team as well.
How does LaRita balance family and business?
LaRita has decided to homeschool her son in addition to balancing work. The way she balances this is to be very forgiving and lenient of herself.
She gets up super early in the a.m. to run her business. At around noon she works with her son’s schooling, although she also believes that life experience is an educational opportunity. She follows spiritual prompting to know when and how to balance out her life.
LaRita’s company is Recruit Scheduling Solutions and her slogan is We Save You Time. She believes that her business is a part of her overall purpose.
Let’s be honest: business life is not quite the same ball game for female entrepreneurs with home based businesses. In addition to keeping up with the latest in our field, working with clients, producing products, and wearing the marketing and management hats, we also have to keep our families cooperatively working along beside us as our home team.
In this episode, I share some key time management tips for female entepreneurs.
1.) Set goals.
Write out your goals a week or a day ahead of time. Use productivity software such as Evernote, Google Drive, or a good old fashioned notebook to help you stay on top of your game.
2.)Be sure to have a business plan in place.
Without a business plan, goal-planning can’t happen. In the future I’ll be creating a quick and easy business plan resource just for mompreneurs with online businesses.
3.)Be an early-riser or a night owl.
Take your pick- but if you’re balancing family life and business, you’ll most likely try to catch a few extra hours of work in the late night hours or in the early a.m.
While making your goals, don’t forge to prioritize. Devote certain times throughout your day just for writing or blogging, creating video footage, podcasting, and working with clients and other projects.
Block off time in your schedule for social media networking such as commenting on other blogs, tweeting, and checking in on Google+ discussion groups.
5.) Set boundaries.
If you’re a mompreneur, you’ll know how tough this part is with kids undertow. Work at certain, specific hours of the day. Work in blocked times or structured hours -if possible- for maximum concentration and productivity.
With a list of goals it will be easier to be on “ready-set-go” mode once you’ve entered your work zone hours. Another idea is to have a devoted office space set up, if possible.
In our home, our signal is: when the door is closed completely, that means “mom is in a meeting – come back later”. If the door is slightly ajar: “knock and enter quietly”. And finally, when the door is wide open: “Come on in, family!”
Do you have any time management tips that help you run your business while balancing family life? Leave me a comment- I’d love to hear from you!
Hi, I’m Demetria– podcaster, blogger, mompreneur of two daughters and Navy wife. I’m passionate about blogging and helping women start an online business through blogging. To learn how to start a blog you can read my book, take my course, or get coaching. I’m here to help you!
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