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Mompreneurs wear quite a few hats (and shoes)!
You know the old adage “if the shoot fits, wear it”? Well…this would be the epitome of the mompreneur life: being able to fit comfy sneakers, cozy slippers, or working heels.
We wear them all.
The question, then, is how do we take care of ourselves while tending to our busy, hectic and chaotic lives?
How do I balance three coaching calls, two design clients, a leaky faucet, a sink full of dirty dishes, and a day of homeschooling my daughters?
The true question is: how do I balance these things while maintaining self-care?
Welcome, Allison Jackson of Allison Jackson Fitness- this week’s podcast guest.
Allison is the founder of Allison Jackson Fitness. She is passionate about all things health and fitness, but she really loves sharing her knowledge and expertise to help corporate moms get lean eating foods they love so they can be at their best.
She knows exactly how hard it is to work full-time, take care of the kids and household…plus try to fit in working out, eating right and taking care of herself, too!
Allison has spent the last seven years training and competing in figure competitions — even winning her pro card — so she has a crystal clear picture of what it takes to get to your ideal weight and stay there. Now she’s ready to share what she’s learned and experienced.
What we talked about on the podcast
As mompreneurs and bloggers we might often find that sitting behind the desk at the computer can keep us more sedentary.
Allison recommends looking for ways to get movement throughout the day. Shoot for 10-12,000 steps.
Just focus on taking a few extra steps. Take the stairs instead of the elevator, for example.
Ways to set goals for our health
Self care for moms doesn’t have to be rocket science. It’s often just a matter of creating small and easy goals. I talk a lot about creating easyblogging goals, but we should do the same when it comes to caring for our bodies.
Break down huge goals into bite-sized manageable tasks.
Another way to set goals is to track what you eat (five days out of the week).
Simply focus on eating and working out. Setting tiny goals makes a big difference at the end of the day.
Suggestions for healthy snacks on-the-go
Allison suggests focusing on protein. Did you know that women don’t get enough protein in our diets?
So, guess what? Protein bars are great and quickly accessible. Slip them in your purse on your way out the door before running errands or keep a few at your desk while you’re working throughout the day.
Also, don’t forget small snacks like almonds. They keep well and travel well. Almonds also provide both protein and healthy fats.
Allison offers an 8-week group coaching program. She helps with tracking goals and teaching how to eat foods you love and still lose weight.
Mom guilt is real, and if you are a mom blogger you totally get it. I talk about this topic so often with mompreneurs because it’s completely relevant and something that I know a LOT of us are dealing with constantly.
How do we find work-life balance? How do we spend time with our families and get it all done?
I try to cover just a portion of this massive subject in my Facebook live video- and I hope you find it helpful.
Make family your priority.
I think our greatest priority is to spend time with family, and we moms know this. We understand already that being grounded in faith and spirituality is important, and we so desperately want to. make family priority. But how do we do this and build our blogs? Blogging full time is truly a full time job!
In my life, I try to make family and spending quality time with my kids number 1. This is my high priority although I’m not always great at it.
In a perfect world my life would go like this: after taking care of my spiritual wellness, my physical health, loving my husband and my kids, business comes next in the line of priorities.
But sometimes (just sometimes), blogging sucks up so much of my time that I forget all sense of time. I mean, I literally enjoy blogging this much!
I’ve found that it’s important as a homeschool mom to use block scheduling so that after I homeschool my girls I spend time working, then time is spent preparing meals and doing housework and chores. I also have to unwind and just spend time enjoying my family- playing games and enjoying life together over family dinner.
It’s so important to make sure you have your own system of priorities that defines who you are so that you can balance your life better. I know it’s not an easy feat (I’m right there with you in the throes of family life), but it is possible.
Don’t feel guilty for being busy.
Entrepreneurship, as I’ve learned, is full of twists and turns. It’s not a straight shot to your next destination so it can be a rather tricky journey. There will be seasons when you’ll be extra busy with client work and you’ll need to stay later for meetings or leave your kids with a sitter a bit more often.
As your work load increases and your business expands you may find the need to call in extra support for your children, but that’s okay. It’s all part of your journey. So long as the new obligations you have don’t impede on your joyful journey or make you feel out of balance or completely out of sync with your family, it’s just a hiccup and you’ll get through it fine. In order to build a business you may just have to make some sacrifices. Prep your family for what to expect during the busy seasons.
Of course, if you feel that you are getting totally out of balance, then you’ll need to re-think your schedule and responsibilities and perhaps take some things off your plate. I’m always re-evaluating my life to see what needs to be eliminated if I feel like I’m out of balance.
Spend time with your family as much as possible.
When you’re together with your kids, really make it count. Let them know you’re available for them to talk and connect, or do activities they enjoy most.
If you spend quality time with your kids daily, likely a good 98% of your guilt will dissipate because of your connection with them. Whether it looks like 30 minutes or 2 hours, any amount of time with them is better than none at all.
I snag whatever moments I can, after school, before meals, just whenever – to do fun things with my kids that don’t take much time. We like to play card games or just simple word games. I read them stories, pray with them, and tuck them in at night even though they’re getting too old! I try to milk as much time out of being their mom in and around the clock although I’m working tons to build my business.
Give extra affection.
Another idea is to have reward systems in place so that the kids have something to look forward ton (for example, a mall outing with a teen daughter or a trip to Chuck E Cheese with younger kids). You can take them for ice cream or go for a special treat that they would really like.
This extra affection gives your kids the confidence that although you’re working hard all week and need some space and time to work uninterrupted, you understand their sacrifice of giving up some time with you. You’re letting them know they are important because you’re willing to reward them with some extra special fun at the end of the week as a result.
I truly believe that you can have your work life and home life combined and live without the burden of guilt.
It’s a new year and it’s time for new goals! I’m so excited about what this year has in store. How about you?
So this post was actually my very first one to this blog, and it’s also my first podcast episode. When I first wrote this in 2014 I was super jazzed to finally see my vision realized through this blog. It has been an incredible journey, although not without its hiccups. However, I want to enter the new year with goals I can actually keep and follow through with.
I decided to come back five years later and spruce things up a bit on this post and give a fresh outlook on what it means to keep blogging goals. I’ve learned a lot over the years…a lot of what not to do, and I found out what things are actually working. I’ve learned that it’s easy to give up and not so easy to remain consistent. I’ve learned that creating goals doesn’t mean I will keep them. And I’ve learned that having too much on my plate means I can’t be successful at the one thing.
So, let’s make this a year to remember together. Here are some ways to create blogging goals you can actually keep this year. (And also, here’s a video to go along with the post.)
Refresh your goals list.
Time to cross off old goals and bring in the new. What are your blogging goals this year?
I personally made a decision to turn this blog around to not just focus on helping mompreneurs to balance entrepreneurship. Being a mompreneur is difficult at times, yes. But there is so much that is exciting about this journey- namely, blogging. I decided to focus my blog on teaching blogging strategies and tips this year. So, this means new goals for me.
What are your goals this year? Are there any old goals you need to cross off your list?
Pick up your free goal planning worksheet for 2019!
Make your goals visible.
What does your wall space look like? This year I’ll be setting up inspirational quotes on my wall to keep me motivated.
You can do a number of things to make your goals visible to you. Use post it notes. Try using the Evernote app. Google drive and calendar are also great ways to put your goals in front of you visually.
One of my favorite tools today is Trello. This app keeps me in tune with my daily, weekly, and monthly goals.
Share your goals and gain accountability.
A few years ago I used a voice recorder almost daily. There was just something about speaking my goals into a voice recorder and playing it back to myself that made my goals a reality.
This year I’ll be mostly making good use of Trello and my blog updates to you guys for accountability and motivation. I’ll also be sharing my goals with my husband who is my business and life partner. I trust him to give me the truth, not sugarcoated, and he is just the motivation I need to push me forward with my goals.
Find a friend or an accountability partner and share your blogging goals with them. This can help tremendously in making your goals a reality.
Assess your progress.
Have a meeting with yourself and check your results. After about 30 days of blogging, check in to see if you’ve been meeting your goals.
Have you written the number of blog posts you wanted to write?
Have you shared your posts in social media?
Have you created a funnel system to gain new subscribers and customers?
Check in again a month later. Do this every month. Give yourself a 3-month check up and then a 6-month tuneup if you need it. The key is to check in with your progress periodically and constantly.
How else will you know if you’re meeting your goals unless you keep tabs on your progress?
Are you meeting your goals?
Let’s make 2019 a year of moving forward into taking those small action steps which lead to greater rewards.
I’d love to hear from you. Tell me what you think. What topics would you like to hear about in future podcasts and posts? I have some great show ideas lined up for you, but I would still love to hear your thoughts.
What happens when preparation meets opportunity? You step into your life purpose. Some people call it luck, I call it purpose. But there are some things you have to do to prepare yourself for purpose.
**UPDATED WITH PODCAST**
One very important thing to keep in mind is that a negative mindset will hold us back from success every.single.time.
As moms and women in business we have to be wiling to roll up our sleeves and prepare ourselves for the success ahead.
Getting rid of a negative mindset requires work.
You have to work to prepare yourself.
Nothing you receive in this world simply just happens. Remember Newton’s law? “For every reaction there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Whatever you do impacts something else in your life.
I have been in business off and on for about 14 years so far. During this decade-long season of mothering and balancing business, I’ve come to realize my limitations and what I can and can’t do at different seasons of my life.
Meanwhile, I’ve learned the value of work. One of those values is that I can’t expect a return on no investment.
In other words, no time in, nothing out. No matter how slow-going things seem to be, if I just chop at it a bit at a time, a week here, a month there and a year goes by, I have accomplished something rather than nothing.
And that is an accomplishment, no matter how small. This is how I encourage myself daily.
Consistent work is crucial. The only way we can stay motivated is to encourage ourselves.
This leads me to the point that whatever someone else does to you or around you impacts you. That is why it’s so important to keep a few things in mind as women in business.
Guard your environment.
It goes without saying that negative people and circumstances can adversely affect your success.
Are you finding yourself constantly dealing with a Debbie Downer who consistently gives you the negative scoop regarding your decisions?
Are you around people who are at odds with you, who don’t understand your vision, and who don’t support you?
It’s important for women to guard our environment against a negative mindset.
Seek out mentors and those who can help you along the journey. There are those who will pull you down and those who will build you up.
Spend time with those who will be the best influence on you.
This leads to my next point…
Take control of toxic thinking.
Like many women, over the years I’ve battled with bouts of low self-esteem. I’ve heard many times that those of us who put ourselves out there in the public eye can be some of the shyest people.
I don’t think I’m all that shy but I definitely have my more introverted moments. There are also moments when toxic thoughts begin to dominate my way of life as I succumb to ideas that don’t uplift me.
Sadly, I’ve seen many women have their self-esteem completely shot down or their self-worth plummet as a result of this type of limited thinking and debilitating mindset.
It’s not so much the geographic area you were raised in or currently live in, but the mindset of the people you hang around with that is the bigger influence.
We must, as women in business, completely take control of toxic thinking, getting rid of it every time it creeps its ugly head in our lives. This is the only way we’re going to see the value in ourselves that truly exists.
When you feel like you can’t be successful, like you can’t make it, you can’t do it, you don’t have what it takes, shoot down the toxic thinking right away as you begin to recognize it.
Well, my friends, I hope this has been helpful to you and encourages you to dump any negative mindset regarding business. You can do whatever you roll up your sleeves and set out to do. Your life is full of purpose and meaning. You can do this!
As bloggers and online business owners we have to show our trustworthiness very uniquely. It’s not always easy to show “Trust me” online, but there are ways we can do it.
Research shows we only have a few minutes to gain the trust of our customers and clients. Once they land on our website it’s up to us to help them believe in our products and services.
It’s easier said than done, so I thought I’d offer a few ways we can start implementing these strategies for our business right away.
Be super honest
This is my first-and-foremost go-to strategy of all time. Seriously. If all else fails, honesty will not. You may have set yourself up as an expert in your industry, but folks can smell dishonesty from a mile away, which is why it is so important to remain true to yourself.
I know, I know- it’s difficult to see this play out in the business marketing world where it seems everyone’s credentials are over-the-top and egos are over-inflated, but there really are a segment of online marketers who believe in integrity and honesty.
Make sure this is part of yourbusiness model and you’ll see great results.
Your client trust factor will go through the roof because you aren’t afraid to show your failures, your hangups, your hiccups, your uncertainties. Be approachable and relatable all the while offering great value. Which leads me to my next point…
Bring loads of value
Why do your clients love you? If the shoe were on the other foot and you were the client, why would you be interested in your own services? Do you see how you are bringing value to your clients?
You can bring value in many different ways:
Bringing value to your client will make a tremendous difference in your trust factor. They trust you because they love what you offer to them, and they trust your expertise. So don’t be afraid to bring it on!
Clients also love to know that you are stable. You’ll be there even if they don’t hear from you in a few weeks. You are around.
You haven’t closed shop. You will contact them again and offer them more value.
Stability means everything to your business and momentum will keep things alive and well for you.
When your clients know they can count on you to follow through on your offers or that you’ll do exactly what you said you would, they trust you even more.
What’s great is you are likely to receive referrals as a result! What a great way to expand your business- by word of mouth. Stability will take you a long way.
Now, I’ll admit (in an effort to be more relatable and transparent) I haven’t always been as stable with this blog as I would have liked.
Why? Because I’m a busy mama!
I got busy and I just haven’t truly worked my blog like a business this past year. Sure, I was working on business activities and making money, but I could have done so much more with my blog…
So… I’m working to change that this year, and I am excited for what’s ahead!
Okay, I’m not much of a gardener but I know a few things. I’ve learned that owning and operating a business is very much like gardening. Why? Because there are moments I put in a lot of work only to have to step back and allow it to grow. Other times I have to be more hands-on, give my garden a few sprinkles of water and be more attentive to its needs.
In order to grow a business that thrives I like to think of nourishing a business the way I might a garden.
And that’s what this podcast episode is all about. I’m sharing some ways we can do just that! Here is the basic outline of what I discussed. It’s better if you listen in at the play button above, so I won’t get into much detail here:
Start with a seed.
Plant the seed in good soil.
Give it sunshine
Watch it grow!
Very basic, right? I do think that when we follow the pattern that nature shows us how to do, the simple act of taking care of a garden, we can have even a much better and more holistic business. Because then it’s not about pushing for quick, overnight growth (though that can happen too and it’s always great when it does!) but putting in the time to cultivate it and watching it naturally produce for you, for years to come.
Listen in to hear my thoughts this week. I’d love to hear yours, too…just comment below and I’ll be sure to respond.
Hi, I’m Demetria– podcaster, blogger, mompreneur of two daughters and Navy wife. I’m passionate about blogging and helping women start an online business through blogging. To learn how to start a blog you can read my book, take my course, or get coaching. I’m here to help you!
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